I recently read an article about a famous singer going out on dates with a few famous men in the course of a week. She recently broke up with her ex, and many were surprised to see she was rebounding with some attractive suitors so soon. At the end of the story, there were posts from different readers who were advising her to space out her dates or risk being deemed a "hoe". I found this idea ridiculous for people who live in 2009. These were not the comments of baby boomers who were born in the 50's and 60's, but of young people who appeared to be in their early to mid 20's.Since when does being seen with someone mean you are sleeping with them? Aren't people allowed to have friends of the opposite sex? And with all the girl has gone through, how can anyone deprive her of any example of decent gentleman or human affection that someone wants to bestow upon her? It always amazes me how in this day & age, people can be so judgemental of women playing the field when men do it all the time.
Being an attractive young woman, this young lady was probably sought after even when she was with her ex. In addtion to that she is famous & has the creme of the crop to choose from. Decisions, decisions...She would be a fool not to take advantage of what the world has to offer. And I say this to most women, and especially young girls: There are so many men out there, how else can you find out what you like or dislike if you have no experience with them? And for the record, I do not condone sleeping with men you are just dating. Once you start sleeping with them, it seems to cross the line from dating, to relationship no matter what the boundaries may be. But dating & getting to know different people is more than just fine--it's encouraged! Dating can be fun, and lets face it we all like to get our ego boosted back up after a bad breakup. My mother used to say the best cure for an old love is to find a new one.
Sometimes, I think that men say those things about women because they like to think that women can only focus on one man at a time. Or they like the idea of a woman growing old as a chaste spinster pining away for her lost love, than to see her so openly moving on and recovering. And then of course there is jealousy at the woman's many options, and maybe even possible that he is jealous that he has no chance to be an option. But men have been calling us sluts and whores for reasons other than our sexual choices for centuries. But What puzzles me the most is the number of women who say this about other women. If she is not sleeping with them, how can she be a hoe? And as a woman, you should be able to identify with this more than men. I think it's more jealousy than outdated values that move women to say such things. Jealousy at the options that they wish they had...youth or beauty that they don't have. That and the parrot syndrome...when women just say things in agreement with men to gain their favor.
In an essence: she shouldn't have to go around clarifying if she is sleeping with them either. Even if she wanted to be a straight up gutter butt stank hoe, as long as she isn't hurting anyone or spreading any diseases, we should care less how many dates someone goes on. I could only hope that they are doing whatever it takes to be happy in their life. Hell, we should all be focused on our own personal lives! Most need work. Because ultimately, minding someone else's business means you surely aren't minding your own as much as you should be. Live and let live.
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