Never Single But Always Alone

I have a few friends who are never single. Over the years they have managed to seamlessly move from one relationship to another. I've always wondered how they managed to do this. My relationships have been few & far between because I consider myself a quality over quantity type of person. Even though they seem to really be in love and attracted to these guys, the fact that they can transition so easily makes me doubt the sincerity & depth of their true feelings.

I had one friend who was with her guy for the longest time. They did everything together. They were so cute. But when he cheated on her and tried crawling back, we were just as surprised as he was that she had not only moved on, but had moved in with another guy. No time for any grass to grow beneath her feet. We thought that maybe she was doing it to get underneath the first guy's skin, but she ended up living with that second guy for many years. And when that relationship ended, she went right into another one with another guy. I just sit here shaking my head and wondering where she finds her pool of winners...

After discussing it with a mutual friend, we gathered that some people are not happy unless they are hooked up with someone or apart of a couple. When I say not happy, I mean they can not live without another person. And after mulling it over, it isn't that she is picking all winners, it just seems that she is able to accept a lot of flaws and keep the relationship moving toward her ultimate goal of "relationship" status. He may be the first to approach her, but she will go with the flow and become so consumed that before even the guy knows it, they are an item! She plans their dates and sets the agenda for their relationship and never loses track or focus. She doesn't care how it looks or if other people think of her relationship as lacking depth. There is a basic need for her to be in a relationship and nothing comes before that goal.

She says she loves being a girlfriend and feeling needed. And she seems to gravitate toward men who need a woman's touch. They appreciate her choosing their clothes or fixing their lunch. They want a mother figure, and she is always there to fill that gap for them. She is a beautiful girl both inside & out. Their parents always love her, and assist her in convincing the guy that she is what they need. She has this game down to a science but I often wonder if this will be enough for her in the long run. I mean who cares what it looks like if you aren't genuinely happy. How can she be complacent with stretching and pulling a guy into being what she needs? And can he really be stretched and pulled into Mr. Right?

I think we all know the answer to that question. This just shows that a totally sensible person can be in denial about the reasons they choose a mate. And it also proves that many of the relationships that look great from the outside can be based on the shakiest of principles. Nevertheless, these principles are indeed important to these women. There is something that makes them value being in these types of relationships over being alone. Being alone is the absolute worst case scenario for them. But as a single woman, I can honestly say I'd rather be alone than to use another person to bide my time.