The single life calls for you to leave no stone unturned. In my adventures, I've dated all types of men: younger men, older men, men my age, men of other races. I am open to the possibilities. I must admit that as I've gotten older, I've become more attracted to younger men. I am not ashamed to say that one of the stones I rolled over lead me to enroll on one of those online dating sites. I was taken aback when the majority of possible suitors were as young as 18. I am always honest about my age. I show a few photos, and am absolutely straight forward with what I am looking for.I know that men hit their sexual peak in their twenties, and women in their thirties. But there is much more to it than physical attraction. I haven't gone out with anyone who was still in their teens, but I have dated several younger men and let me tell you what I really liked about them:
They seem to be more fun-loving. They weren't stuck in their ways. And they were more apt to roll with the punches. Along with that, they seemed to be up for a reciprocal relationship ie, something more balanced. In the past when I've dated older men, they seemed tired and grouchy. Some of them were moody, and wanted me to wait on them hand & foot or be at their beck and call. One of them followed me when I said I was going out with my girlfriends, and proceeded to call me on my cell all night. (Insecurity is unattractive at any age) When he later confessed to being so insecure (and stalkerish), I dumped him. Another older man that I dated thought he could just throw money at me instead of taking me out and having a good time together. He just wanted me around to show his friends, and I soon became resentful.
To me, age is a state of mind. I am an energetic, vibrant, fun loving woman who has never looked or felt better than I do right now. I would date a man of any age if he possessed carefree qualities AND was a charismatic gentleman. I was watching a reality show where an older woman had her choice of several different younger suitors. After some silly remarks from some, and a lot of immature antics, she verbalized her concern for if she was doing the right thing. I could identify with her because although she was older than they, she was a really good catch. She had a lot going for her being that she took care of herself, was very ambitious, was very successful in her field,and looked great. She said that many men her age, weren't looking for women like her, and she was tired of being alone but did not want to settle. She emphasized that although some of the young men were certainly not her type, she found herself excited at the possibilities.
That's what it all comes down to. Being excited at the possibilities. I don't think you have to exclude or include only certain types either. Who was it that said "Variety is the spice of life..."?My friends have laughed at me for my choice in dating younger men, but I have never regretted allowing them a fair chance. Some of them have been all wrong, but others have been closer to what I am looking for than any other age group. I am not on the prowl looking for anybody. But when they approach me, I don't automatically turn them down. However I will hold them to the same standards that I would have for any prospective partner. And many of them have welcomed the challenge and have gone all out to show me that my faith in them was warranted. Some could not hang. I'll tell you what: it feels good to be pursued and appreciated. I don't care how old the man is, as long as he is good to me, and good for me, I'm all for it. Equal opportunity.
So, to my girls who (lovingly I'm sure) referred to me as a Cougar I say: Call me what you want. I love you, but I don't care. I am not breaking any laws or compromising anything. I am simply expanding my options. Being open to those who show interest and you're attracted to is no crime. If that tends to be younger men, so what? I'm doing what I have to do to find happiness in this life. I am no hypocrite, and when men do it, I don't think less of them. We all have our choices & preferences.
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